Vajralila

Vajralila

PGdip, MBACP Senior Accred

Lifespan Integration Therapy / Humanistic / Integrative / Traumatology

Specialisms: I have experience of working with: • Addiction • Sexual and gender diversity - LGBTQ • PTSD and Complex Trauma • Adoption • Attachment issues • Sexual abuse • Domestic Violence • Personal development • Spirituality

Therapeutic Approach: Lifespan Integration / Humanistic / Integrative / Trauma Therapy

About:

I trained 20 years ago in Humanistic Person Centred Counselling. I then for 5 years, moved into working with recovering addicts as a group and 1-1 therapist in Norfolk. It was then I began to gather tools to work with trauma (which is beautifully transferable to non trauma therapy).

Over the next 15 years or so I have been committed to further training aspiring to be as effective in holding the space for people to heal as I can. My toolbox of further training include, NLP and Hypnotherapy, CBT, Traumatology, Lifespan Integration.

I have had quite a journey of integrating more directive and structured approaches into my ‘trust the client model’ without compromising either seeming pole. I have come to a place of using all perspectives as needed, like a dance, sometimes stiller and sometimes active in response to what the client brings.

It is exciting times in the therapy world as so much is being discovered about the body mind system and the neuroscience behind effective therapy. For this reason I largely call on “Lifespan Integration Therapy (LI)” with ego states lost in time. LI uses timelines to literally (neurologically) show the body-mind system that the past trauma/pain is over and that whatever strategies were needed to survive then, can now, safely be upgraded. My experience tells me that change only occurs when whole body mind insights happen. When it is really seen that the cost of staying the same outweighs the cost of change, only then can the old reactive ways of survival melt away.

I love to work with ‘parts’ or sub-personalities. It is also fascinating to me that that we all seem to have ‘parts’ to our psyche and that the protector parts, who’s job is to keep us safe (and have usually done a pretty good job) needs to be respected and understood fully before the vulnerable parts feel safe enough to come out and be healed and integrated.
I am a certified teacher and facilitator in a process called feeding your demons, which captures this approach well.

I have particular interests in trauma, gender and sexual diversity and positive creative ritual.

Currently my main influences and inspirations come from Peggy Pace, Janina Fisher, Peter Levine, Tsultrim Allione and Richard Schwartz (Internal Family Systems).

I practice from a beautiful, safe and spacious room in The Wilbury Clinic in Hove which I run with my partner Sudakini.

I am a qualified active Supervisor and also deliver continuing professional development trainings in Sussex and beyond.

Professional Registration: BACP

Cost: £70 for 50 minute talking sessions. £70 per hour for Lifespan Integration (up to 90 minute sessions as needed).

Email: vajralila@me.com

Website: vajralila.com

Mobile: 07917644942