My approach is based on a deep respect for your experiences and what they mean to you. It is also based on the belief that you have the right to determine your own path in life – however difficult or impossible that might seem, and however lost you may feel. It is a fluid and collaborative process which allows us to attend to whatever comes up for you both during and in between your weekly sessions, whilst working towards your goals. In essence, it is an holistic approach based on an attempt to realign mind, body and soul.
I draw on ideas, skills and techniques drawn from a wide range of theories and subject areas – most notably Attachment Theory, Philosophy, Neuroscience and Trauma/Body Psychotherapy. Key influences include the pioneering work of trauma therapist, Peter Levine, and neuroscientist, Stephen Porges. I have also been deeply influenced by retired physician, Dr Gabor Mate, who theorises that all human suffering results from a disconnect from the self, and that in order to heal we need to find a way back to who we really are. This requires a gentle and compassionate examination of your life, offering you the opportunity to untangle yourself from unhelpful, external rules and messages – usually unconsciously communicated to and internalised by you, and almost always rooted in childhood family relationships.
With this in mind my role as your therapist, with warmth and kindness, is to gently guide you through a deep and honest exploration of your life and struggles. The aim is to provide you with a safe and confidential space in which you feel comfortable enough to talk about the issues which trouble you – in your own words and at your own pace. Whilst doing so, I will help you better access and tolerate painful feelings. I can also help you re-frame your issues so that you can look at them in a more helpful light, and from a more self-compassionate angle. Fresh insights and greater clarity usually bring a huge sense of relief. Over time this process will lead you to a greater level of understanding and self-awareness regarding your current situation and how you might change or improve it. Having said that, it is a process which can take time – requiring patience, courage and commitment.
If you’d like to come and have an informal chat first – to see if we are a good fit – please get in touch.